Hard Conflict – Deep Peace

I frequently begin peacemaking sessions, whether they be private mediations or public facilitations with the statement, “Over the course of our time together, things are likely to get worse. But the only proven path to a deep, lasting peace is through the middle of the conflict.”

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Humble Civil Disobedience

That’s not the message anyone wants to hear. We want quick fixes and easy outs. Some people rush to give in to the other side simply to end the conflict. Others want to impress with power and the righteousness of their position.

Those who truly build peace, however, are those who count the cost and find themselves willing to explore, desconstruct, and reconstruct the attitudes, feelings, and communications that have been distorted by conflict. That requires stepping into conflict and not away.

Avoidance and weak compromise may give temporary relief. Only honest grappling with the often entrenched seeds of conflict will bring deep peace. Only a willingness to engage to the point of understanding will bring lasting relief and a broader highway to both justice and mercy.

2 thoughts on “Hard Conflict – Deep Peace

  1. This is one of those simple, yet profound, statements. If getting through conflict was easy, everyone would do it.

    Conflict resolution is somewhat like faith. If we knew how things would work out in the end we would likely have more faith. Often my trouble with conflict is the pain I deal with of fear, self-preservation and selfish desire. If I could just see what positive resolution might look like on the other side, I just might deal with the conflict sooner and better. Walking in faith or conflict isn’t easy. Not walking in either is just downright miserable.

    Keep up the great writing!

  2. Thanks, Jeff! Our fear often makes unable to see beyond the conflict, doesn’t it? So you rightly inject faith into this. Great thoughts!

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